By Linda Preston – Your Psychic Guide
When love is mixed with fear it creates one of the most powerful emotions on earth: jealousy. And jealousy is, of course, both poisonous and destructive to any loving relationship.
Having worked as a psychic reader for over 25 years I've had many clients confide in me about their deep feelings of insecurity and worry that their partner may cheat on them.
And so often their feelings are just that ‘feelings’. There are no real grounds to mistrust their partner. But yet they allow nothing more than what is just an unpleasant, negative feeling to destroy a perfectly good relationship!
If you're plagued by feelings of jealousy you may begin to understand why by asking yourself the three questions below:
Why are you jealous?
When you're trying to handle your own jealousy, the first thing to consider is why you're feeling jealous. Did something happen to cause you to feel jealous, or are you struggling with irrational emotions rather than a current situation? Do you have trust issues with your partner? Or are your jealous tendencies left over from a previous relationship where you felt betrayed? Perhaps you have issues with trusting yourself that you are projecting onto the other person.
If your partner has done something that made you question their honesty, you need to address the situation.. Otherwise, take a look at the patterns in your life that have brought on your trust issues. Address these - and you'll be less likely to drag them into an otherwise-happy relationship.
How do you express jealousy?
The next step is to question how you're communicating your feelings of jealousy with your partner. Do you quietly bottle up your feelings - but secretly fume inside? Do you scream accusations and threaten to leave? Perhaps you even break down in tears, and beg them not to leave you – even though they have shown no indication that they intend to do so.
It's important to use positive communication techniques to let your partner know when something hurts your feelings and makes you feel jealous. Choose a time when you can talk in a calm, safe way, and use "I" statements such as "I feel jealous when you have a drink with your ex-girlfriend" or "I feel jealous when you talk with women online."
What do you do with jealousy?
The next step is to begin paying attention to what actions you're taking as a result of your jealous feelings. When you start feeling jealous, how do you react? Do you check through his emails and text messages? Maybe you throw a tantrum and accuse him of cheating?
Whether you realise it or not, reacting to jealousy in this way will only leave you with more fear and frustration. In a way, your unconscious goal is to find something incriminating, so in that sense you will only be "satisfied" if you find proof of cheating. And. of course, your fear will eventually drive him away, emotionally - which is the opposite of what you really wanted.
Stop the cycle right now - the more you act out of jealousy, the more you create that vicious circle of fear and frustration. Of course it's important to pay attention if your partner is acting suspiciously, but at the end of the day your jealous behaviour is not going to keep anyone from cheating - in some cases, it may even encourage it.
If you really want to let go of jealousy, you must also let go of the idea that you can control someone through love. Just as love is a risk, trust is a choice. Each time you decide not to pry , you make a choice to become a more loving, trusting partner.
If you need professional, psychic insight and guidance into your feelings and emotions order a psychic reading from Linda now at Psychic Reach