HERE ARE MY POTTY TRAINING TIPS FOR BOYS ....
Knowing if your son is Ready
- Is your son 2.5 years plus?
- Does he tell you when he has wee-weed or pooed?
- Does he go off and hide in a special place to have a poo?
- Does he do a wee-wee 'dance' jigging about as if holding a wee in?
- Is he really interested in pottys, toilets, how men wee standing up etc?
- Let your little boy see their dad older brothers standing up peeing and sitting on the toilet as often as possible, boys love to copy
- Let them tear and pass toilet paper, press the flush, practice hand washing etc.
- Buy two potties, one for upstairs and one for down stairs - nothing fancy just basic one will do
- Let your son play with the potty, wear it as a hat, pour a little water in it and flush down the toilet
- Make a sticker chart to show progress (for you and him !)
Stage 1 -Potty Training
- Choose a 4-5 days when you will be at home so that potty training can start in a familar environment
- At first (Day 1-2) let your son run around bare bummed, he need to see the pee coming out rather than just getting a wet sensation
- Up your sons intake of fluids to ensure that you have some wee-wee to practice with
- Choose pure fruit juices (orange/pineapple etc) dilluted with a little water to slightly irritate your sons bladder so that he can identify the sensation that says 'I need to pee' more readily. If your son gets a taste for these sweet drinks you can always water them down more gradually as the weeks go on to the 10% juice 90% water recommended by dentists
- REMIND REMIND REMIND Ask your son if he would like a wee - invite him to use the potty - would he like to earn a sticker ? every 15-25 mins
- Get your son to sit on the potty back to front, that is with the high back rest at the front to avoid any wee spurting over the top and onto the floor.
- PRAISE PRAISE PRAISE anything at all ... the tiniest of tinkles or just for sitting on the potty for a story... remember sitting still is really hard for little boys so it is a big deal worthy of praise Give stickers for everything you can - put them on his top or let him put them on a chart to see his progress, show everyone his chart and they can also praise his success
- If your son likes to poo privately in a special place just put the potty under the table or in the doorway or wherever he goes at the appropriate time, save a big reward for a poo on the potty, and be sure to let him flush it away !
RELAX - IF AFTER 4-5 DAYS YOU HAVE HAD NOTHING IN THE POTTY JUST PUT IT AWAY AND TRY AGAIN IN ANOTHER MONTH - YOU CAN'T FORCE THIS.
Stage 2 Into Pants (Day 4-14)
- Once your son is using the potty reasonably successfully for wees buy some cotton brief style pants with characters on the front Bob the Builder Thomas The Tank Engine or whatever and try to keep his face dry !
- The aim is to improve your sons anticipation time of when he needs a wee and to teach him to pull his pants up and down independantly
- Yippee you can now leave the house !! Take plenty of spare clothes and avoid dungerees, belts and braces which hamper getting his trousers down.
- Take a potty under the pram, in the car and plan your toilet stops and anticipate accidents
- If your son doesn't like using his potty in public you can make a game of having him wee on your car wheel before you get in the car, wee on lamp-posts, trees, down storm drains etc you and he will soon loose your inhibitions believe me !
- Remember to remind your son to use the potty ... especially if he is engrosed in something else ... use your stickers and praise !
- Keep a nappy sack handy for accidental poo in pants - just bag and bin the lot it is rarely worth laundering.
Stage 3 Getting from Potty to Toilet (Two weeks onwards)
- Buy a step so that your son can stand up at the toilet to pee
- Get a portable childs toilet seat that you can take out with you. Choose something simple smooth and impervious so that you can clean it effectively. Kids can get quite attached to their seat so don't forget to pack it if you go away.
- Move the potty into the toilet so that your son has to go to this room to wee and poo
- Let him choose if he wants to use the potty in the bathroom or the child toilet seat on the big toilet but incentivise the toilet over the baby potty, you get two stickers for using the toilet
- Avoid using kandoo style wipes, they just delay the transfer to proper independant bottom wiping, and they are full of detergent.
- Use toilet paper, get your son to tear an appropriate amount, show him how to fold it and to wipe himself front to back. If he hasn't done it quite enough get him to repeat until the paper wipes clean rather than taking over and doing it for him. Independance is the key, it takes practice don't take over he needs to learn !
Stage 4 Dry at night (when ready)
- If you find that your son regularly has dry morning nappies you might want to try a nappy free night
- I had one son do this at 2 weeks and one still in nappies at the age of five !!
- Get a waterproof cover for his matress, the ones with the terry finish are best because they don't feel like you're sleeping on a plastic bag
- Don't limit the amount your son drinks but do stick to water, milk or soya milk after 5pm no sugary drinks, no squash and no fruit juices
- Take for a wee 10 mins before bed ... then story or relaxed time, then another final trip to toilet before bed.
- When you go to bed pick up your sleepy boy and sit him on the loo for a last wee before carrying back to bed.
- Keep a pair of pj's warm on the radiator and a ready bed or sleeping bag handy to slip him straight into while you change any wet bedding
BE PREPARED FOR SET BACKS
ONCE THE NOVELTY WEARS OFF HE MIGHT DECIDE HE DOESN'T WANT TO BE A BIG BOY AND INSTEAD WANT TO BE BABIED A LITTLE BIT MORE, AND THAT'S OK
HE MIGHT DO IT FOR MUM AND NOT FOR DAD - HE MIGHT BE FINE INDOORS AND NO GOOD WHEN YOU GO OUT.
STICK WITH IT, BUT DON'T LET HIM GET DISTRESSED. YOU CAN ALWAYS TAKE A STEP BACK.
PLEASE REMEMBER POTTY TRAINING IS NOT AN OLYMPIC SPORT - YOU DON'T GET MEDALS - TRY VERY HARD NOT TO COMPARE / COMPETE WITH OTHER MOTHERS .... LETS FACE IT WET, DRY OR EVEN COVERED IN POO YOU WOULDN'T SWOP YOUR WONDERFUL UNIQUE LITTLE BOY FOR ANY ONE ELSES KID SO COMPARISIONS ARE MEANINGLESS