If you find your life in disarray, you are living what society calls a "dysfunctional" life. This term simply means that things are not working as they should, which is something determined by you and your conscious mind. However, dysfunctions are not always viewed by the subconscious mind. For instance, if you were doing things you do not want to do such as smoking, overeating, being abusive, and so on, you would probably agree those are dysfunctional things.
With self-hypnosis, you can remove the dysfunction from your life, so you can stop smoking, overeating, being abusive, etc. Self-hypnosis can help you become more patient while improving yourself and your actions. The key is to believe that self-hypnosis can benefit your life but first, you have to identify the dysfunction in your life so it can be addressed. Although sometimes hard for people to do, self-hypnosis can work if you get to the real source of the problem.
With this, you would learn how to find both symptoms and the problem. For instance, if you are a smoker, the problem is not the cigarettes but your desire to smoke them. Remember, you cannot confuse action with cause. In other words, the desire to smoke results in buying cigarettes, carrying them around, putting them in your mouth, lighting one, and inhaling. If you deal with one or all of these symptoms, regardless of how successful the self-hypnosis suggestions are, you will not get past the dysfunction. This means the craving to smoke will remain because the underlying source of the problem of why you are craving the cigarette is not yet addressed.
Now, let us say that you have a problem with overeating. Your desire to eat and overeat is the source of the weight problem but the goal with self-hypnosis, you identify the reason you have the desire and then change it. Once you do that, the overeating problem will stop. It could be that the underlying problem has to do with stress of a job, recent divorce, sibling rivalry, being picked on at school, or any number of reasons. However, the dysfunction of the situation is what must be determined before self-hypnosis can work.
No matter the goal, the same ideology applies. Anything you want to overcome, biting your nails, swearing, being shy, etc, they all require overt behavior on your end. Keep in mind that passive dysfunction involves the absence of something, meaning you have some type of mental block. If you are struggling with passive dysfunction, then subconscious constructs are in the way of learning. Your goal with self-hypnosis is again, to uncover the existence of each dysfunction. Once you know what these dysfunctions are, you can then formulate suggestions that will work to eliminate them.
One way to determine the existence of any type of dysfunction is through ideomotor questioning. With this, you will be able to formulate effective suggestions so the subconscious mind signs off the suggestions. The process involves who, where, when, what, and why. As far as who, you would ask questions to find out if there are other people associated with the problem. For the where, is would be associated with location that could be the source of the problem. In other words, were you in a location that triggers your nervousness, nail biting, smoking, overeating, and so on?
For the when, you want to identify the time of your life when the problem first started. If possible, determine the exact age or date, which will provide you with tremendous insight. Then you have the what. For this, you need to find out what specifically sets off the dysfunctional behavior. For instance, were you taunted by someone as a small child, did your parents yell at you, were you embarrassed at some point. All of these questions will help you find the crux of the problem. Finally, there is the why, which may help you understand why the behavior in the first place.
Once you have gone through this exercise looking for the keys to the dysfunctional behavior, you can use self-hypnosis to get past it. Again, with hypnotic suggestions being made the right way, you can begin to take control of the dysfunctional areas of your life, finding that you feel better and stronger about yourself. Hypnosis in any form is not an overnight fix but with practice and patience, you can overcome many dysfunctional aspects of your life for a brand new beginning.