Have you ever found yourself in a situation of saying yes to someone only to regret it? Far too often, people take nicety to the extreme, overextending themselves to the point of exhaustion. While being nice and helping are great qualities, sometimes you just have to say no. The truth is that most people have trouble saying no, whether in offering help or stopping a bad habit. After all, people typically do not like confrontation, wishing to avoid anxiety and stress that comes with refusing someone a favor.
Because of this, we see a growing number of people turning to hypnosis to help them identify the things where should help and where they should say no. Hypnosis is an outstanding tool that can teach a person the confidence required to make a difficult decision. By using hypnosis, whether guided or self-induced, you will find that saying no can be a calm and relaxing experience, thus allowing you to make the right choice without consequences.
If you find yourself faced with people constantly asking for assistance or have trouble overcoming a bad habit, self-hypnosis could be the answer in which you have been searching. Keep in mind that hypnosis takes practice but with patience, it will allow you to experience thoughts, images, and fantasies that are real like. With hypnosis, you are working with the subconscious mind, teaching it day-in and day-out how to say no. Known as "rehearsal", you will begin to imagine yourself doing something repeatedly.
The key however to using hypnosis for taking back control of your life and your decisions is to understand what all is involved. From there, you will need to learn simple induction practices and disciplines, usually along with visualization. By using these tools, you can change things that concern you while building your confidence of saying no. People all around the world find themselves in situations of enabling another person to live an unhealthy habit. As an example, you might have a son or daughter who is into drugs and rather than encourage change and support out of fear of losing that child, you enable them to continue the habit. However, hypnosis can provide you with the strength and know-how to address your child, breaking the cycle.
To learn how to use hypnosis in saying no, you have to create what is called ideomotor action, something hypnotherapists and hypnotists use all the time. This introductory experience is the beginning of teaching the mind to imagine change. For this, you might be asked to cross your feet and then envision your feet being crossed or to clasp your hands, and then imagining them stuck together. With strong focus, you would then be asked to uncross your feet or unclasp your hands, which interestingly, you will likely find hard to do. By thinking of an action, you tend to produce that action so when you are hypnotized and told to imagine yourself saying no, you would lean in that direction.
If you were interested in using self-hypnosis to learn to say no, then you should talk to a professional to understand exactly how it works so you perform it correctly. Unfortunately, some people will try self-hypnosis, using incorrect methods that can be dangerous and lead to devastating results. In fact, there are instances when self-hypnosis should be avoided. For example, if you have had a form of long-term mental health, if you tend to be a loner, have been in a troubled relationship, or have not responded to professional hypnosis sometime in the past, then you should really avoid self-hypnosis. However, if you do not fall in these categories, then you can learn to say no. The great thing about using self-hypnosis to say no is that while you are taught what it takes to succeed, if at any time you feel yourself slipping or you feel you need more control, you can simply perform hypnosis. In other words, self-hypnosis lets you pick the time and place, whenever needed.
In addition to the induction methods you will use, it is important that you also develop self-improvement instructions while using mental imagery. With this, you would have a new attitude not just toward yourself but the very people that you need to say no to. That means you are using simple worded instructions to change, which are repeated numerous times. Just remember, the goal must be both gradual and attainable for it to work. In this case, if you are constantly loaning money to someone out of the kindness of your heart but you want to stop, you could use a suggestion that would help you relax and then envision yourself falling short of your dreams because you are helping someone achieve his or her dream.
While in this relaxed state, you could mentally write the names of those people and the amount of money you have loaned them overtime on an imaginary blackboard. Then make a list of the negative aspects to include how that makes you feel, how it affected your finances, your frustration, your anger toward the person and you, etc. Then watch yourself pick up an eraser and start to wipe the blackboard clean. Where the old words were once written, replace them with positive aspects of saying no. This might include things like, "self-worth", "vacation", "financial security", "self-esteem", "control", and so on. From there, imagine yourself standing back and looking at those words, really absorbing their meaning. You may have to do this many times throughout the day as reinforcement, which is exactly what self-hypnosis is all about.
Just remember that learning to say no to someone or something takes time. You cannot use hypnosis and expect an overnight miracle. Plan, prepare, and practice! Do not expect too much too fast and it is perfectly fine to put up a little guard for early disappointment. However, with time and persistence, you will begin to see change. With that change, comes the ability to say no, as well as a newfound confidence, which makes overall life better and more enjoyable.