For many of us, loving ourselves is our greatest emotional problem. Kingma points out that self-love is not narcissism, egotism, greed, self-righteousness, or conceit all of which have given genuine self-love a bad name. She shows how each of us can start to love ourselves through a simple four-step process of: speaking out of our hearts desires; acting out to meet them; clearing out old patterns; and setting out on a new path.