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Daring to Love: Move Beyond Fear of Intimacy, Embrace... by Firestone, Robert W.
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Item specifics
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- ISBN
- 1684030730
- EAN
- 9781684030736
- Date of Publication
- 2018-06-28
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- Type
- Paperback / softback
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- Daring to Love: Move Beyond Fear of Intimacy, Embrace Vulnerab...
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- Firestone, Robert W.
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Product Identifiers
Publisher
New Harbinger Publications
ISBN-10
1684030730
ISBN-13
9781684030736
eBay Product ID (ePID)
239666784
Product Key Features
Book Title
Daring to Love : Move Beyond Fear of Intimacy, Embrace Vulnerability, and Create Lasting Connection
Number of Pages
208 Pages
Language
English
Publication Year
2018
Topic
Love & Romance, Friendship, Personal Growth / General, Interpersonal Relations
Genre
Family & Relationships, Self-Help, Psychology
Format
Trade Paperback
Dimensions
Item Height
0.5 in
Item Weight
10.2 Oz
Item Length
9 in
Item Width
6 in
Additional Product Features
Intended Audience
Trade
LCCN
2017-277161
Reviews
"This book invites us into raw vulnerability only made possible by the competent, compassionate hands of two authors who have lived--and loved--the principles they set forth. Perhaps the last paragraph of this book explains why it deserves to be read, integrated, and actualized into practice: ' Love is worth believing in. Love is worth fighting for. Love is worth the personal challenge. No other endeavor offers higher rewards.'" -- Pat Love, EdD, LMFT , author of The Truth About Love, " Daring to Love is a wonderfully wise, beautifully written, and eminently practical book for anyone wishing to establish and maintain deeper, richer, and more lasting close relationships. It distills decades of research and clinical experience aimed at understanding and overcoming personal and relational barriers to happy, psychologically healthy living. The book contains many useful, personally engaging exercises based on the authors' voice therapy, organized around specific barriers to intimacy. As a relationship researcher who frequently writes about attachment theory and close relationships, I receive numerous requests for books that help a person overcome relationship problems. Daring to Love will now be on my short list of enthusiastic recommendations." -- Phillip R. Shaver, PhD , distinguished professor of psychology emeritus, University of California, Davis; coeditor of Handbook of Attachment ; and coauthor of Adulthood, "Robert Firestone, clearly one of the most influential therapists of our generation, and Tamsen Firestone, have teamed up to write Daring to Love . This book is the definitive guide for integrating voice therapy into relationships. Since the text is packed from cover to cover with valuable journal exercises, it is a wonderful reference for therapists as well as clients who can use it for bibliotherapy. The key insight is that most individuals need to stop pushing away love, and this book provides a wealth of useful interventions." --Howard Rosenthal, EdD , author of Encyclopedia of Counseling and Encyclopedia of Human Services
Dewey Edition
23
Dewey Decimal
158.2
Table Of Content
Foreword vii Introduction 1 How This Book Came About 2 What to Expect from This Book 3 And Here We Go ... 5 1. Our Defenses and How They Get in the Way of Love 6 What Is Love? 7 What Interferes with Love? 8 How Defenses Are Formed 9 2. The Critical Inner Voice That Supports Our Defenses 20 Your Real Self and the Anti-Self 21 How the Critical Inner Voice Develops 22 How the Critical Inner Voice Operates 23 3. The Voice Therapy Method 34 Old Habits--and New Hope for Change 35 The Voice Therapy Method 35 Reactions to Challenging the Critical Inner Voice 48 Why Voice Therapy Works 48 Journaling and the Voice Therapy Method 50 4. When Love Makes Us Feel Vulnerable 55 Defenses Against Vulnerability 56 How to Be Vulnerable to Love 67 5. When Love Disrupts the Fantasy Bond 78 How the Fantasy Bond Develops and Continues 79 The Fantasy Bond in a Couple 84 How the Critical Inner Voice Enables the Fantasy Bond 91 Challenging the Fantasy Bond in a Couple 92 6. When Love Challenges Our Negative Identity 99 Your Negative Identity 100 How to Challenge Your Negative Identity and Maintain Your Real Identity 108 7. When Love Triggers Guilt 114 Guilt for Being Happier and Different 115 How the Critical Inner Voice Encourages Guilt 119 Taking Action to Overcome Guilt 121 Defensive Strategies: Selection, Distortion, and Provocation 122 8. When Love Arouses Deep Sadness 129 Where Does the Sadness in Love Come From? 130 How We Cut Off Sadness 133 How to Face Sadness 141 9. When Love Stirs Up Our Fear of Loss 147 How Death Anxiety Is Aroused 148 How the Critical Inner Voice Intensifies Death Anxiety and Fear of Loss 154 How to Live with Death Awareness 160 The Positive Effect of Death Awareness 161 10. A Look Ahead 164 Continuing to Use the Voice Therapy Method 165 Preserving Individuality to Strengthen Your Relationship 167 Developing the Skills for Communicating in an Intimate Relationship 170 Dealing with Anger Constructively 175 The Act of Loving 180 A Few Final Words 184 Acknowledgments 188 References 189
Synopsis
Why do we push love away? In Daring to Love , Tamsen and Robert W. Firestone outline powerful techniques based in Robert Firestone's groundbreaking voice therapy--a process of giving spoken word to unhealthy patterns--to help readers identify the internal barriers that cause them to sabotage their love life. Using the strategies in this book, readers will learn to communicate better, open themselves up to vulnerability, and build the intimate, lasting relationships they truly desire., When it comes to finding love, are you standing in your own way? Daring to Love will help you identify the internal barriers that cause you to sabotage your love life, open yourself up to vulnerability, and build the intimate, lasting relationship you truly desire. After a breakup, most of us spend a lot of time thinking long and hard about what the other person did to cause it, rather than reflecting on ourselves. It seems self-evident that we want our romantic relationships to work, and that love and long-term commitment are our ultimate goals. But what if our desire for love is actually not as straightforward as our emotions make us believe? What if, instead of pursuing love, we are unconsciously pushing it away? In Daring to Love , Tamsen and Robert W. Firestone offer techniques based in Robert Firestone's groundbreaking voice therapy--the process of giving spoken word to unhealthy patterns--to help you understand how you are getting in your own way on the quest for true love. Love, the Firestones argue, makes us vulnerable and triggers old defenses we formed in childhood, causing us to sabotage our relationships in myriad subtle--and not-so-subtle--ways. Using the voice therapy strategies in this book, you will be able to identify your own defensive patterns and uncover the destructive messages your critical inner voice is telling you about yourself, your partners, and your relationships. If you're struggling to cultivate lasting relationships, this book can help you embark on your next romantic journey with more openness and self-knowledge., Does it feel like your relationships never work out? After a breakup, do you spend most of your time dwelling on what the other person did to cause it, rather than reflecting on yourself? It may seem obvious that you want your romantic relationships to work, and that love and long-term commitment are your ultimate goals. But what if, instead of letting love in, you're unconsciously pushing it away? And if so, how do you stop? Daring to Love will help you identify the self-protective behaviors that keep you from building the intimate, lasting relationship you truly desire. Using techniques based in the authors' groundbreaking voice therapy-the process of acknowledging unhealthy patterns aloud-you'll uncover the real reasons you're sabotaging your love life and learn to quiet destructive thoughts that are rooted in fear of rejection, shame, or jealousy. With this hook as your guide, you can approach your relationship with openness and fearlessness-two key ingredients for romantic bliss! Tamsen Firestone is founder and editor-in-chief of PsychAlive.org. She has been principal editor for many of the books written by her husband Robert W. Firestone, including Fear of Intimacy and Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice. Robert W. Firestone, PhD, is a psychologist and author of many books, including The Fantasy Bond, Combating Destructive Thought Processes, and Voice Therapy. Book jacket.
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BF575.L8
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