Reviews"Barbara's work is essential reading for anyone who wants to lead an ecstatic life, and indeed for anyone who wishes only to live a happier one." -- Mark A. Michaels and Patricia Johnson , authors of The Essence of Tantric Sexuality and Tantra for Erotic Empowerment, "Lesbians, gays, bisexuals, trans folks, and queers have been gathering under an ever-increasing and unwieldy alphabet moniker. Finally--thanks to Barbara Carrellas's new book--there's one letter that includes all of us and more. All sex and gender positive people can claim E for ecstatic!" -- Kate Bornstein, author of A Queer and Pleasant Danger, "This book is essential reading for anybody trying to attain new levels of intimacy and intensity, not only in their sex lives but in their lives as a whole." -- Janet W. Hardy, co-author of Radical Ecstasy and The Ethical Slut, "In 1990, when Barbara appeared in my first Bodysex Workshop video, I had no idea she would go on to become a sexual pioneer in her own right. In Ecstasy Is Necessary, readers will find important, unexpected doorways to undreamed-of sexual pleasure." - Betty Dodson, Ph.D., author of Sex for One: The Joy of Selfloving, "If you long for connection to sacred joy, to the extraordinary, and to the healing power of full aliveness, then you'll love this book." -- Cheryl Richardson , author of You Can Create an Exceptional Life, "One of THE most brilliant books written on sex and relationships." -- Mona Lisa Schulz, M.D., Ph.D., author of The Intuitive Advisor, "The exact book we need for these troubled, and troubling, times. Cultivating ecstasy as a spiritual practice, far from being selfish or shallow, allows us to live more fully in the world, with energy and love to spare, and share. More, please!" -- Nina Hartley, author of Nina Hartley's Guide to Total Sex, " Ecstasy Is Necessary is destined to be a classic. Simply reading it is an ecstatic experience." - Denise Linn, author of Secrets and Mysteries: The Glory and Pleasure of Being a Woman, "Barbara Carrellas is a true visionary. This book will give you the tools to create a bolder, more authentic, and satisfying sex life, but it goes much deeper: it's a road map for living a fuller, more conscious, and joyful life." --Tristan Taormino, author of Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships, "Barbara's grounded, open-hearted, and respectful approach leads you to discover your own personal ecstasy. This is an important book!" - Jean Haner , author of The Wisdom of Your Face, "Barbara's grounded, open-hearted, and respectful approach leads you to discover your own personal ecstasy. This is an important book!" -- Jean Haner , author of The Wisdom of Your Face, "Barbara's work is essential reading for anyone who wants to lead an ecstatic life, and indeed for anyone who wishes only to live a happier one." - Mark A. Michaels and Patricia Johnson , authors of The Essence of Tantric Sexuality and Tantra for Erotic Empowerment, "This informative, fun, irreverent book was a joy to read." - Judith Orloff M.D., author of Positive Energy, "If you long for connection to sacred joy, to the extraordinary, and to the healing power of full aliveness, then you'll love this book." - Cheryl Richardson , author of You Can Create an Exceptional Life, "This informative, fun, irreverent book was a joy to read." -- Judith Orloff M.D., author of Positive Energy, "Barbara Carrellas has given us a beautifully adventurous and useful work; be prepared to journey in delight just reading this lovely book." - Dossie Easton, marriage and family therapist, co-author with Janet Hardy of Radical Ecstasy and The Ethical Slut, "The exact book we need for these troubled, and troubling, times. Cultivating ecstasy as a spiritual practice, far from being selfish or shallow, allows us to live more fully in the world, with energy and love to spare, and share. More, please!" - Nina Hartley, author of Nina Hartley's Guide to Total Sex, "This book is essential reading for anybody trying to attain new levels of intimacy and intensity, not only in their sex lives but in their lives as a whole." - Janet W. Hardy, co-author of Radical Ecstasy and The Ethical Slut, "Barbara Carrellas has given us a beautifully adventurous and useful work; be prepared to journey in delight just reading this lovely book." -- Dossie Easton, marriage and family therapist, co-author with Janet Hardy of Radical Ecstasy and The Ethical Slut, "One of THE most brilliant books written on sex and relationships." - Mona Lisa Schulz, M.D., Ph.D., author of The Intuitive Advisor, "Lesbians, gays, bisexuals, trans folks, and queers have been gathering under an ever-increasing and unwieldy alphabet moniker. Finally-thanks to Barbara Carrellas's new book-there's one letter that includes all of us and more. All sex and gender positive people can claim E for ecstatic!" - Kate Bornstein, author of A Queer and Pleasant Danger, " Ecstasy Is Necessary is destined to be a classic. Simply reading it is an ecstatic experience." -- Denise Linn, author of Secrets and Mysteries: The Glory and Pleasure of Being a Woman, "Barbara Carrellas is a true visionary. This book will give you the tools to create a bolder, more authentic, and satisfying sex life, but it goes much deeper: it's a road map for living a fuller, more conscious, and joyful life." -Tristan Taormino, author of Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships, "In 1990, when Barbara appeared in my first Bodysex Workshop video, I had no idea she would go on to become a sexual pioneer in her own right. In Ecstasy Is Necessary, readers will find important, unexpected doorways to undreamed-of sexual pleasure." -- Betty Dodson, Ph.D., author of Sex for One: The Joy of Selfloving, "Barbara Carrellas is a brilliant writer. To Barbara, being sexual is as normal and comfortable as breathing, and she would like all of us to feel this way." - Louise Hay, "Barbara Carrellas is a brilliant writer. To Barbara, being sexual is as normal and comfortable as breathing, and she would like all of us to feel this way." -- Louise Hay
SynopsisEcstasy is the human reset button. It shakes you up, reboots your system, and opens your eyes to a whole new world of possibilities. Ecstasy introduces you to your deepest, most authentic self, while simultaneously offering freedom, intimacy, connection, and spiritual awakening. In this book, you'll dive deep into the world of ecstatic experience, beginning with the medium through which most people experience ecstasy--sex. However, this is much more than your typical sex book; it is an exploration of the entire erotic self and the infinite possibilities of ecstatic expression. The insights you will gain on your journey will help you approach sex and relationships with confidence, no matter where you are on your personal erotic path. You'll put together a tool kit for solving the inevitable challenges that arise along the way. And you'll learn that it's possible to create ecstatic experiences even when sex is not available or appropriate. Ecstasy Is Necessary gives you the permission and the possibilities to go where you haven't gone before., From Barbara Carrellas, sex expert and author of the best-selling book Urban Tantra, comes Ecstasy is Necessary. This is not your average tips-and-techniques sex book; rather it is an exploratory journey of the sexual self and the infinite possibilities of ecstatic expression. In Ecstasy is Necessary, Carrellas teaches readers how to discover, nurture, expand, and embrace their authentic, ever-evolving, sensual, sexual self. Everyone goes through different phases of sexual expression and desire, and there are an infinite number of erotic and ecstatic possibilities available at all points along the way. The insights readers will gain in their journey with Carrellas will help them confidently approach sex and relationships in a way that works for them no matter where they are in their sexual evolution. They will get tools for solving the inevitable challenges that arise. They'll even receive permission not to have sex at all, if that's what's right for them, because it is possible to create ecstatic experiences even when sex itself is not possible, available, or appropriate. Using stories and simple exercises, Carrellas helps readers understand how they are wired for sex and relationships, what their personal warning signs look like, and what they need for optimum care. Plus, they'll learn how to effectively communicate this information to others so that they can be loved more easily and effectively. As readers discover their authentic sexual selves, they will learn how to create the conditions that allow more and more of their experiences and relationships to be opportunities for--and invitations to--ecstasy.