Biased against men's issues, otherwise very informative
The 1 star is for how biased the author is with regards to men issues and trauma in men (which I find astonishing, given, by the account of the book, he seems a leading authority in the field). Not only throughout the book he presents women as the only (or vast majority of) victims of domestic violence and sexual abuse, but somehow he also perpetrates the widespread narrative of men perpetrators&abusers, women innocent victims - in the book, the vast majority (all?) of sexual/DV perpetrators discussed are men, the vast majority of sexual/DV victim examples are women (the notable exception being a men who as a kid was sexually abused by a priest - unsurprisingly in my view, as it perfectly fits the stereotype of when it is acceptable to discuss sexual abuse of males).
Ironically, he involuntarily confirms the existence of this bias when he references researches done on these subjects.
Some examples (I have the hardback copy, 2014 edition, so far I’ve read up to page 220 of 356):
on page 145 , he presents some of the questions asked for a research study (ACE study) on adverse childhood experience:
"As a child, did you witness your mother sometimes, often, or very often pushed, grabbed, slapped, or had something thrown at her?" or
"As a child, did you witness your mother sometimes, often, or very often kicked, bitten, hit with a fist, or hit with something hard?".
Either a similar question was asked with regards to the father being the victim and nearly noone answered positively or the question was not asked at all. Given it is becoming to be widely recognised now that up to 40% (and many believe more, given that men tend to underreport more than women) of DV victims are males, I believe the latter is true.
On page 146, he writes "women in the study were asked about rape during adulthood". Why was not a similar question asked to men?
Note also: is the author aware than in 2012 the FBI changed the defition of rape because “The old definition of rape did not include male victims of rape” (1) and it “included only forcible male penile penetration of a female vagina”(2). The new definition, in addition, recognises women can rape men by making them penetrate against their will (3). There is a petition now trying to change the UK legislation too so that women who rape men are included in the law (4).
(1)
https://www.fbi.gov/services/cjis/cjis-link/ucr-program-changes-definition-of-rape
(2)
https://archives.fbi.gov/archives/news/pressrel/press-releases/attorney-general-eric-holder-announces-revisions-to-the-uniform-crime-reports-definition-of-rape
(3)
https://tamenwrote.wordpress.com/2014/04/04/fbi-clarifies-definition-of-rape/
(4)
https://petition.parliament.uk/petitions/556250
On page 161 he refers to the "first longitudinal study of the impact of sexual abuse on female development". Again, why no such studies are referenced (or carried out at all?) for males? Note that on page 145 he indicates that in the aforementioned ACE study, men were asked whether they had been sexually abused or raped in childhood and 16% said they did.
Note these articles too, from some of the most left leaning and feminist newspapers in the UK:
https://www.theguardian.com/society/2011/jul/17/the-rape-of-men
https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2020/jan/16/male-rape-victims-sexual-abuse-support
https://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/home-news/women-are-more-violent-says-study-622388.html
On domestic violence (again, a rather feminist news source):
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-wales-47252756
On bias against males:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3WMuzhQXJoY (note the speaker was a feminist which set out to make a documentary to expose the misoginy of the men’s rights movement - only to stop being a feminist during the making of the picture because of what she was discovering on men’s and women’s issues)
If the author is concerned with all trauma victims as he says he does, then why does he discuss sexual abuse and DV only, or vastly predominantly, in the case of women? And why the stereotype of male abusers / female victims?
Somehow the big ego of the author (poorly comuflaged with fake humbleness) is also rather annoying, but you can get thorugh it if you don’t mind the above bias.
I find this bias really upsetting and paradoxical for a book on trauma, which is a shame because the book is otherwise very informative and useful. I read the first chapters really enthusiastically (5 stars up to then), but since the gender bias started, I’m reading it in piece meals, absorbing what’s useful for my recovery on one side, managing the boiling anger on the other.
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