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A must read for
This book is now my bible, it opened my eyes to some of the hidden patterns of behaviour that abusive partners or family members use to manipulate and control. It also helped by categorising these abusers and identified the common excuses these abusers may try to use to blame or minimise their behaviours.
It equips you with the knowledge to spot the red flags and allows you to recognise the traits of the type of individuals who may escalate their control further to physical violence.
This should be shared with children at schools so that they learn the warning signs early on.Read full review...
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education is key
I bought th book as I have daughters, I feel the book is essential in order to educate females and even males,
I think the book was undermined in places as it could have used the term "partner" more often as the common thread is supposed to be living with the dominator etc, so in that respect it left itself resembling a book with a "feminista" agenda which contradicted it's statements regarding equality in relationships, the personal content that was not dwelled upon appeared to come out sideways in that respect... it's understandable the main audience it was aimed at however that's why personal opinions can taint such books..
However I do recommend the book to all readers as education is keyRead full review...
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Disappointingly exclusionary
I should've guessed, given that Craven runs a DV service and these are so often run by SWERFs and TERFs. Whilst she begins the book with some token acknowledgments that DV can happen in same-sex relationships, the book overwhelmingly assumes the reader is a cishet woman. As I read I felt increasingly that it wasn't for me, to the point where I began to question whether what I had experienced was *really* domestic abuse -- I know it was, but wow, that was a tough horrible read -- and that's actively harmful to anyone who's face doesn't fit her narrow idea of what a DV survivor is.
All the illustrations are of white people. This is a problem because people of colour are so often excluded from discourse on DV and, as we've seen with how the assumption the audience is a cishet woman (I'm a bi nonbinary person) made me question my own experiences, excluding PoC in this way could harm them too.
Craven clearly hates sex workers and sees all pornography as violence. She also hates BDSM and thinks it's all DV -- another factor I found actively harmful to my recovery process.
There wasn't really much Earth-shatteringly useful I got from this book that I haven't found in other, less exclusionary resources. So whilst it's all collected in one handy book, if you're identity includes any kind of marginalised group, you may be better off looking elsewhere for help.
TL;DR, it's probably fine if you're a vanilla, abled, cishet white woman who has never done any sex work or even a bit of amateur porn, but if you're anything outside that box, this book might be dangerous for you, so please take care reading it.Read full review...
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Living with a dominator
Was recommended this book by a counsellor. This is for my daughter who's in an extremely abusive relationship. Please God it will give her the strength and courage to take back control and get away from him before its too lateRead full review...
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A must read to everyone.
Information all in one easy to read book .
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The Dominator
I had a copy of this book several years ago but mislaid it. Replaced it and still good to read.
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Very informative, easy to read (as a book, not the contenmts)
A very good book that is informative and instructional. Can be uncomfortable reading, especially for a male, but that's because it is, unfortunately, still real
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Good read
Definately worth a read of you are going through a controlling and abusive relationship. Very helpfull.
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Learning to cope
Am finding this book extremely helpful in a very difficult time in my life
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living with the dominator
Good book for anyone wanting to learn more about these situations and there effects and specially individuals who have experienced theses situations and relationships well recommended
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